Cheers Darlin'

When does an idea become an out of control obsession?
It sneaks up on you. The focus in your life becomes askew.
Close your eyes.
Who is there?
The fabric of our lives is made up of one emotion.
Love
Even in extreme Hate we are loving.
For Hate is Love turned inside out.

I feel like I am lost in a jello mold. I am neither above nor below the surface. Normally I know exactly how I feel. I am either on the top of the world; or I am scratching away at the bottom of a black hole. Right now I am floating between emotions.

I hate uncertainty. I know I will wake up tomorrow and be uncertain. About everything.

I am my own worst enemy. Because the love I am speaking of is not the love you share with someone else. It is the love that must exist inside of yourself. I tend to question it all the time. And the uncertainty that I mentioned, that is the uncertainty of my own abilities. Some days I am able to think my way out of a bad situation. These situations start out as seeds of doubt in my own head. These seeds nourish themselves by my own insecurities. When they grow they weave themselves into moments of otherwise happy memories.

Laughing with my sister.

Sitting with my parents and talking.

Nights out with my friends.

Quiet times when Jimmy just looks at me and smiles.

All of these moments become tainted when I start to question the love I have for myself. But now I am faced with losing a matriarch in my family. My Nana. Other than the loss I will feel from losing her because she is my grandmother, I fear I am going to mourn more over love lost.

My Nana grew up in dire conditions. Her mother was cold and distant towards her. So was her father. The only man she ever 'knew' took even more of her spirit away. I was never close to her growing up. She was always hard on me. She always put me down about my weight. She was never happy to see me.

But through all of that I found a lost soul. I mourn for the potential. She could of lived epically. She could have loved enormously. But she didn't. She loved in vain. She criticized. She could never be pleased. She was always indifferent.

So why do I cry for her loss? Because I am afraid it will become my own loss. I am afraid I will lose the ability to love myself. What if I can't think my way out of another situation? I do not want to become calloused. I want love to flow through me freely. I want to filled to the brim with emotion. Whether they be good or bad. Because without the emotional connection to this life, indifference seem to be the only option. If that were to be so, then my understanding of my Nana's life will have become unimportant.

It's a new dawn...

Last night I had a strange dream.

I raided my mom's closet for something to wear. I was searching feverishly. I needed something, ANYTHING. This was quite a task because my mother is the tiniest little woman. I know you wouldn't think so looking at me. But my mother is like 5 foot and maybe an inch or two. She forgets to eat. REALLY. she forgets to eat for like 2 or 3 days at a time. I feel like I am leaving a lil puppy who can't fend for itself when I leave her. I know she will become stressed and not have the will to eat. Thank God for her Mochas. I believe that is the only thing with caloric value that keeps her lil heart a'beatin.

back to my strange dream....

She was throwing everything off the hangers in her closet and randomly tossing them onto the bed. I don't know what I was thinking, in reality there is NOTHING she owns that I would fit into. I picked dress after dress after dress. So a dress it is. Which is also something I never wear. I stretched the material over my bodice and they all fit. One right after another. I started hugging my curves. I would twirl about in front of the mirror. Every dress hugged me in the right places. I felt sultry and comfortable in my own skin. I kept searching for the right dress to match my mood. Getting frustrated with the endless selections of floral pansy summer dresses I threw them up in the air. There lost underneath the fluff of the former was my dress. A corsetted bodice, purple and black. I slide into the velvety material and goose bumps form on my smooth legs. My mother laces up the back and pulls it snug into my waist. I turn to look in the mirror and find someone else. Someone who looks nothing like me. Except for the smile, my smile remained.

I wake up shortly after.
In this dream I was also taking charge of a class of children and we were stuck in a museum. The mannequins all came to life and we were all enchanted by their charm. The children grew into adults. I remained young. We drank brandy, danced to jazz, and we felt good.

Today, Nina Simone is carrying on this feeling of nostalgia. Listen...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CJA69C6SlRk&list=QL&playnext=9
(copy & paste)

Bubba Ho-Tep

I have never been let into someone's inner dialogue before. Especially an inner dialogue that resides in a member of the opposite sex. So it was all too special for me when my boyfriend asked me to watch his second favorite movie of all time.

How does one get used to being let in?

So there I was, watching the movie...
wrapped up in *his* arms.
(I know this sounds mildly gushy)
((read anyways))

The movie was not what I expected.
It was funny on the surface.
Crude in appropriate ways.
And unexpectedly deep.



This movie in three words... regret, perseverance, and courage. These are my words. His words were many. His words were insightful. His words were deeply felt. In his words I felt like I was able to know him so much more.

We can always explain our life away. We can give facts, details, brief histories. But nothing is as effective as sharing a moment. In these moments we find the meaning to someone's words. These words that were so one deminsional before have taken on new life.


(((Thank You Jimmy)))